Wind Vest
Everyone experiences insecurity in some way, shape or form. Everyone. Our uncertainty in May occur at home, at work and play. Think for a moment, in some cases, events or circumstances in which you feel or have felt, a touch of insecurity hold a newborn, think about making a commitment in a relationship, a speech reflecting on aging and retirement, buying a first home, remarriage, their management capacity or technical capacity, training school, family or social position, a sport or a musical instrument, talking, or outward. Of course, needless to say, our insecurities are based on fear.
As a coach, my experience is that most people are or have been, to confront their insecurities so they are not paralyzed for them. Journey through life that have taken steps to overcome their fears and whether or not to allow their insecurities to be disabling.
Turning On the other hand, are those who succumb to their fears and insecurities. It also allows their refusal, self-limiting, and against internal scripts. These people usually feel like a victim, walk the Earth and everything that everyone blames for his insecurities to their bosses, colleagues, family of origin, time, politicians, spouses, partners, friends and neighbors.
A disadvantage of this latter group, negative people, how to affect and infect the workplace when they rise to the level of leader, manager or supervisor.
When insecure leaders, managers and supervisors are displayed in the workplace, their behavior is characterized by the following:
Insecure people want and need control.
Feelings of insecurity and thus "small" and "invisible" to seek and seize opportunities that will show them to be brilliant, meaningful and important that "someone". They refuse to collaborate and delegate or support others to grow and develop. They dare not coach or other mentor. His ego is driving.
Unsafe people are afraid of change.
These people prefer the status quo to try something new. They live in the "not invented here" part of the landscape of the workplace. Take risks, stretching or explore new avenues of doing things is a threat and fear of decision. Risk or change is not part of the equation.
Insecure people to avoid embarrassment.
They simply "can not fail." How could they be if they had received not? Insecure leaders, managers and supervisors to prevent the occurrence or not in any way or form. They hate being perceived as stupid or incompetent in front of someone.
Insecure people are "silent" people.
I is close to the jacket or blouse. They are afraid to reveal anything personal about themselves. They prefer small talk, gossip, and conversation which is sporadic, superficial and shallow.
Insecure people hire people who are not a threat.
People insecure need to feel wanted and needed to feel important and superior. Hire people with reduced competition and therefore do not compete or feel threatened or embarrassed by someone "smarter, better and more capable."
People uncertain perpetuate insecurity.
Insecure people to lead, manage and supervise the mantra "I need you to be as I do. "They thrive on insecurity and create a climate of fear, the thought and over-analysis, live life at work and constantly vigilant for suspicious create an environment that is characterized by mild fever that kind of excitement permeates the place work.
While insecure leaders, managers and supervisors are often successful in the short term, generally after a derailment or interruption, but not before the damage and seriously affect their unit, department and / or organization people around them.
Therefore, issues of self-reflection are:
As a reflection of honesty, sincerity and self-responsibility, what sense does one or more forms of insecurity affecting their leader, management and control capacity and therefore their relationships with colleagues?
This could be a good first step in exploring and addressing his insecurity?
Do you have a trusted friend with you can open and talk about their deep insecurity?
Do you think you owe to yourself and those who lead, manage or supervise the work of overcoming the Roller Coaster of insecurity?
Outside of work, is at home and at play, insecurity not affect their relationships, their performance and behavior? How so?
Have you colleagues, friends, your spouse or partner who has a need for control, recognition or assurance that the results lies in its generally in a state of insecurity?
When you work to reduce or eliminate your insecurities, you will be amazed at the difference it makes not only his life but the lives of those who lead, manage or supervise the work and who you know and love outside of work.
---ABOUT THE AUTHOR---
Peter G. Vajda, Ph.D, C.P.C. is a founding partner of SpiritHeart, an Atlanta-based company that supports conscious living through coaching, counseling and facilitating. With a practice based on the dynamic intersection of mind, body, emotion and spirit - that is, Essential Well BE-ing - Peter's approach focuses on personal, business, relational and spiritual coaching. He is a professional speaker and published author. For more information contact http://www.spiritheart.net, pvajda@spiritheart.net or phone 770.804.9125
