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I recently talked about a child who has been expelled from school for swearing - What a result! I swear and you get an afternoon off from school - great. Then, to top it off, was allowed to return that evening to take part the assembly of the class! Oh my God - what are these people supposed to? It's crazy. What impact has this "consequence" of having children? Probably anyone with half a brain would say "It would not be an impact. "

Well, ultimately, impact ... but not you want. You will have a greater impetus to the child that all social behavior is unacceptable or anti caused by adults and there will be consequences important consequence. In short, you're a soft touch, a retreat that will put up with any number of egregious conduct and not do something.

What you see is certainly not an improvement in the child's behavior - in fact almost certainly happen otherwise. Surprise, surprise, it exactly what happened. Then they called me to go to school ... Oh Boy, it was in great pain now.

What had I done? What happened is very unfortunate, but in the repertoire of some children's behavior is almost viewed as normal behavior, and unfortunately, the type of hooligans and anti social behavior that adults are allowed and encouraged to take the wrong action (or anything) when it occurs.

After the house in the afternoon result "class went swimming. The return of the children were sent to save your bags in the cloakroom outside the classroom. Our struggle against the boy decided social advantage of the situation, planted a toddler well against the wall and the strike. Three other boys were trying to protect one being assaulted. The teacher of the working class support and hear the chaos and rushed to intervene and stop the aggression.

But what would happen next? They knew that the management of people who want the same "result" as the previous week and send the boy home. This is an unofficial exclusion - Do not fill in the mountain of paperwork an officer of the exclusion fixed term is avoided. Many exclusions also looks bad school statistics. It may be noted that the school has behavioral problems and that there can be people who think they can? It's amazing how many children are home sent to conduct an atrocity. Exclusion figures rocket, if all these unofficial exclusions became official! Many children are also in part by too much time.

Disastrous performance today was proof enough that last week a "consequence" has been totally ineffective. Thus, the teacher in the class went to management and said that I wanted to be called to cope.

Why not treat? It is a good question. Often, teachers feel vulnerable and intimidated by management or perceived authority figures - learn about the experiences of Milgram, if you want to know why - these experiences have also been repeated in recent years with the same results. School personnel also feel supported in their efforts to discipline children. And many believe that simply do not know what to do. Great credit for this time would someone to deal with the situation knew that I would have an impact.

Have you noticed? Can I scream? No, I did not. Not required. As I described the problem in the Bible that children can be told in no more than a whisper that they are deeply dissatisfied with their behavior. His tone, body language, eye contact, time, energy and confidence are essential for effective management of behavior children. The boy said I would not be sent home, but it would be isolated within the school for 3 days and also when He attended the PRU. He also said (as were his parents) if not come to school, the result still standing until he had become "his time". Be prepared for him to go home with sanitized version of events.

His behavior since then? Almost perfect. I visited the school several times and it is surprising (and not really me) I was greeted with a big smile. Done 'throw a sickie and stay away from school? No, he did not. His parents tried to say he was attacked and had "committed the crime." This not unusual. School stuck to their guns and their parents had to accept the fact that they had received a version whitewashed events by the child. Once again it is not unusual.

The consequences have to have an impact and give a strong message to be effective. The behavior of the Bible tells us how - there are steps to take.

Liz Marsden is a highly experienced and successful behaviour management expert who works with children demonstrating extreme behaviour. At http://www.behaviourbible.com you can learn Liz's strategies and techniques. Follow her daily work at http://www.behaviourbible.com/diary to read more about managing behaviour confidently.